We all have friends in every stage of our life. With time, we may change the type of people we befriend, but we always—no matter what—have friends. Our friends make us strong; they make us believe in ourselves, laugh off our mistakes; and most importantly, they keep us positive and hopeful. We may be a group of 3, 4, or even 10 best friends who always hang out together and share everything. But I believe that no matter how many people make up a gang, there is always a single person with whom we connect the most. This one person is always there for you, can always find out when you are lying about your feelings, and always says just the right things to make you feel better. This one best friend will be your pillar of strength and support for the rest of your life.
A few months after I got married, my mom sent me a video about the importance of girl best friends in a woman’s life. It could be your mom, sister, mother-in-law, daughter, cousin, or that one close friend in your gang. I liked the video for the way it conveyed the message and also agreed with it. But it was only later, after I had my baby, that I really realized what it meant to have a friend who always has your back. Gowri was my senior in college. We were roommates during my second year and that’s how we became friends. Since then, she has been my go-to person for my every moment of happiness and tears.
After I got married, I moved to the US with my husband. Transitioning from working long hours to becoming a full-time home-maker took a long time to adjust. She was there during every emotional outburst I went through. Motherhood brought along more challenges with it. My husband and I struggled along trying to be “the better parents,” and I constantly kept asking myself if was doing enough for my baby. While each day passed with new challenges, worries, and my endless cribbing to my husband about my self-doubts, I received a gift on my first Mother’s Day from Gowri. It was a gift pack from Bed, Bath and Beyond along with a card that said I was an amazing mother, and that I should take a day to relax and appreciate what I am doing for my baby. I still tear up remembering how I felt the moment I read it. It was then that I realized what the video my mother had sent ages ago truly meant.
Having someone so consciously and effortlessly understand every emotional turmoil you go through and give you a big jolt of hope right when you need it is amazingly gratifying. Only your girl best friend can do that. That card did not nullify all my self-doubts as a mother, but it made me believe that I was doing my best every day.
Finding a life partner is important, and so is finding your best friend, because no matter what, your girl knows how to make you smile. Everyday as we run through our busy lives, forcing ourselves to do our best in each of our work and family roles, our sanity depends mainly on our best friend who always has our back. Find that one person who relentlessly loves you for who you are, trusts in you, reminds you that you are the best, and almost always has time for you.